Its my birthday month and I can’t believe that I have made it this far in the year. This year has brought many challenges. Life has way of ripping the carpet from right underneath you and showing you who’s boss. It’s important to find the collateral beauty in it though. Remember that challenges can teach you valuable lessons and that a test becomes a testimony when you come through on the other side stronger and more determined than before. I am going to share what I have learnt in the past year.
- Comparison is the thief of joy. Someone smart said that the reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes with someone else’s highlight reel. You have something to offer the world – your individuality. Don’t try to be like others, be who you are. The world does not need any more imitations. It needs your fresh, unique perspective. Bring it to the table and do not be ashamed of your background, accent or upbringing. There is no one else like you and that’s your advantage.
- Not everyone’s advice and opinions come from a place of love. I had to learn to discern when people’s words were truthful or from a place of insecurity. Once I learnt to accept and love myself I realised that other people’s opinions are just that – theirs and sometimes it’s better that they hold onto it than for me to hold onto it.
3. There is nothing wrong with saying no to others. I didn’t realise how consumed I was with other people’s lives and supporting others until I needed to be there for myself. Saying yes to someone else means saying no to yourself and there will be times when you need the yes more than the other person. There is nothing wrong with saying yes to yourself. No one is going to take care of you but you. Be there. Show up. YOU need YOU.
4.Show up for others. No man is an island. Sometimes you may not need gifts or quality time from others, but that does not mean that your friends or family does not need it. I’ve always understood that people experience love differently, but I somehow still expressed it to others how I would have wanted it to be given to me. Someone smart told me that the beauty of a gift is in the eye of the receiver. You could love the gift that you are giving, but if the receiver hates it then it really is of no value. The same applies to love- think about how the receiver would want love to be expressed to them or how they would want to be loved. Now show it.
5.Nothing lasts forever. Whatever you are going through will pass. All seasons come to an end. Take it one day at a time and if you are only able to breathe then breathe. In and out one breath at a time.
About this look
Tee shirt – Superbalist
Shoes – Daily Friday, Superbalist
Pants – River Island